How to give them a customized blow job
Advanced tips for giving better blow jobs.
Last week, I finally broke my inexplicable embargo on oral sex with the post, “Give better blow jobs in 5 easy steps!” This week, I’m expanding upon those tips with five more sexy suggestions for better oral sex game.
This time we’re stepping up the difficulty. But not to worry, you’ll still have my usual snarky-yet-thorough instruction to help you. What are you waiting for? Get sucking!
#1 Become an octopus
Hands are probably the best sex toy on Earth. You probably have hands, so use them.
While you’re going down on your guy, tweak his nipples, rub his inner thighs and sides, hold his hands, grab his butt and caress his balls. If he’s into it, you could stick a finger up his butt and play with his prostate. You could even grab a vibrator and use it on all his sensitive areas. The possibilities are only limited by what he enjoys and your arms can reach.
#2 Make some noise
Obviously, you don’t want to make too much noise while your mouth is full, it’s bad manners. But you do want to provide your guy feedback about how much you like having his dick in your mouth, even if you’re not that keen on it.
Try simple sounds like “mmm…” If your mouth is full that’s all he’ll be able to hear anyway. Don’t go overboard; you’re not a porn star. You just want to react to the things you enjoy and/or he really enjoys. If he’s tensing up and his toes are curling, give audible feedback. If he’s relaxed, a quick glance and dick-filled smile will suffice.
If you make some noise when you’re deep throating, the vibration will feel fantastic on the head of his penis.
#3 Learn to suck
One of the odd things about sucking dick is that it doesn’t often involve any actual sucking. This is fine for a basic BJ but you can’t call yourself a dick sucking master without knowing how to actually suck dick.
When it comes to sucking on dick, you have to be masterful in the application. Make sure your mouth is extra lubed up and apply a little suction at a time until you figure out what works best for him and you. Suction is generally applied while sliding the penis out of your mouth slowly. Make sure to suck a little harder as you get to the head.
Giving extra attention to your technique will create anticipation in your guy and add variety to the sensations he feels. Together, you have a recipe for a deliciously creamy mess.
#4 Don’t forget the balls
When you’re eating dinner, do you only eat a main course? It’s unlikely. So, why would you ignore the incredibly sensitive and usually tasty side-dishes we call testicles? Lick em’, kiss em’, caress em’, put em’ in your mouth. This is all a matter a preference, both yours and his.
When it comes to playing with balls, you must remember that you are not in gym class. You’re guy’s balls are incredibly sensitive to both immense pleasure and unparalleled amounts of pain. Be extremely careful not to cause the later, it will almost always end an otherwise wonderful oral experience.
Bottom line: no teeth, nails, or anything rougher than a feather near his balls… unless he explicitly asks for it.
#5 Follow his lead.
It may seem obvious, but following his verbal and non-verbal suggestions is very important when sucking dick. People think guys are easy to please but in reality they’re just as complex as women. The only difference is that men often have a better handle on their sexuality than women or trans-folk. Although this is great for guys, it’s also good for the people who have sex with them.
Even if he’s not talking, your guy will tell you how he wants to be touched. Pay attention to his body language. When things feel really good, guys tend to tense and jerk. They also tend to breathe deeper, not necessarily faster, or not at all when they’re really enjoying something. In the beginning and near orgasm, this tensing is often replaced by intense relaxation and an opening of the body.
Your guy may have certain specific quirks that buck the norm. If so, follow what you know to be true. If you’re uncertain, ask him, preferably not during sex, what certain body movements mean. It never hurts to get confirmation.
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