Sex is important or why sexual incompatibility shouldn't be suffered

Whenever people like me give the advice to end a relationship due to sexual incompatibility, there’s always a group of people screaming that bad or absent sex is something you should just endure for love. Honestly, that’s complete horseshit. Sex may not be the most important part of a committed relationship, but it’s still pretty dang important. We deserve more from our romantic relationships than martyrdom.

Why you probably don't (but should) date outside your race

Back in 1967, the Supreme Court of the United States of America said what we all knew: Race-based marriage discrimination is stupid and unconstitutional.

Even though that landmark decision made love across color lines legal, it didn't open the floodgates of interracial relations. In fact, according to a Pew research study, in 2010, only 8.4 percent of all marriages were interracial. A lot of people site this as evidence that we don't want to date interracially; I think it's just an unfortunate side effect of the fear, uncertainty and doubt we have surrounding race ... and a hint of laziness.

5 unique ways to be romantic

Let’s be straight: we all know how to be romantic….or we think we do. We all know how to act out the obvious clichés of romance. We can all buy flowers and chocolates for our significant others on Valentine’s day. We can take our date out to a candlelit dinner at a restaurant way above our pay rate and take them home for passionate, romance novel-esque sex. But that isn’t real romance; what everyone believes to be “romantic” are cliché constructs of a consumer-driven society. So, I am here to tell you 5 ways you can skip the flowers and chocolates and still be wholeheartedly romantic.

3 tired myths about HIV

HIV (Human Immunodeficiency Virus) has been buried in misconception since the pandemic was first identified in June of 1981. To overcome the challenges caused by HIV and AIDS, it helps to clear up the mistaken beliefs that surround these illnesses. While many questions about HIV remain unanswered, researchers have studied and learned a lot. Understanding and dismissing the following myths will ensure that the transmission of the virus can be contained.

How I stay close, intimate with my sweetheart

I’m willing to wager the word “intimacy,” when considered, often leaves a sweet gumdrop trail of images: holding hands, sharing secrets or making love. However, I tend to translate “intimacy” in a stranger but more exciting way. 

There are some specific things my girlfriend and I engage in to stay close. These things may not be orthodox but they work, and the two of us are extremely happy.

5 things you should never say to an Asian girl on a date... or ever, really

I know it’s hard to believe, but I’m American.  Well, I was born in China, but for the past 19 out of 20 years of my life, I’ve lived in the United States.  Now, I get it--dating is hard.  You’re trying to impress me, relate to me, and maybe you’re a bit nervous because of my sparkling personality.  Still, nothing turns me off more than you treating me like an outsider. The worst dates I’ve been on always seem to include the casual racism of things like:

10 (non-sexual) ways to be intimate with your partner

When most people think of intimacy, they think only of sex. Really, intimacy is “a close, familiar, and affectionate personal relationship.” It’s connection and energy that create intimacy.

Even the most mundane activities can be intimate when you’re with the right person. These non-sexual activities will make you laugh and feel sexy but most of all bring you closer as a couple.